Navigating Grief: Healing and Honoring Loved Ones

Ramesh P Elaidam
3 min readOct 18, 2023

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Losing someone we hold dear is a profound and emotional experience, irrespective of the circumstances. It does not become easier even when the people we’ve lost have led full lives, witnessed the joys of parenthood, and cherished their grandchildren. Even in the fullness of their existence or maybe even because of it, the void they leave behind seems insurmountable. In these moments, we often find ourselves lost between past memories and the harsh reality that our loved ones have crossed over to the other side. Understanding and exploring the complexities of grief and learning how to cope, heal, and celebrate the lives of those we’ve lost is something that we need to do.

Allow Yourself to Grieve

Grief is a natural response to loss, and no, it does not come with a manual or follow a set timetable. It’s perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, or confused or a mixture of the three after losing someone close to you. Everyone’s experience of grief is unique, and it’s essential to be allowed to feel these emotions without judging yourself. Grief is never a sign of weakness; it’s a testament to the depth of your love and connection with the departed.

Remember and Celebrate

One of the most beautiful ways to keep the memory of your loved ones alive is by remembering them and celebrating their lives. Share stories about them , flip through old photos, and reminisce about the positive impact they had on your life with your family and friends. These activities help you cherish the times you spent together and you will feel happier knowing that their legacy lives on through your memories.

Connect with Others

Grief can be an isolating experience, but you have to let your friends and family in on what your are feeling and going through. You should not have to go through it alone. Don’t be afraid to lean on friends, family, or support groups. Speaking with others who have faced similar losses can provide comfort and understanding. Sharing your feelings can be therapeutic and help you realize that you’re not alone in your grief.

Take Care of Yourself

Grieving takes an enormous toll on your physical and emotional well-being. Despite your grieving, you have to make sure that you take care of yourself. Prioritize self-care. Make sure to eat healthy, engage in regular exercise, and get enough rest. Taking care of your body can have a positive impact on your emotional state and help you cope with grief more effectively.

Create a Memorial

Honoring your loved ones can take many forms. Consider creating a memorial or keepsake in their honor. It could be something tangible, like a scrapbook filled with cherished memories, or something more abstract, like planting a tree in their memory. These acts not only provide a sense of closure but also ensure that their legacy lives on in meaningful ways.

Seek Professional Support

Grief can be difficult to deal with on your own because it is so overwhelming and multifaceted. A therapist or counselor can offer direction and specialized assistance to help you navigate your particular grieving process if you seek support. When you require assistance, don’t be reluctant to ask.

Give Yourself Time

Healing from grief is not a linear journey, and it takes time. Because every person’s experience is unique, it’s vital to be kind to yourself and take your time grieving. Give yourself the time you need to accept your loss and find your own way to move on. Be kind and understanding to yourself, and don’t judge your feelings or the length of time it takes to heal. It’s all part of the journey toward acceptance and healing.

In the midst of grief, it’s not uncommon for your mind to play tricks on you, making you feel that your loved ones are still with you. They are, in a sense, the memories you have of them, the things they taught you, and the love they gave you. Despite not being physically there, these factors nonetheless influence your life. Remember to take things day by day and to be kind to yourself while you travel the difficult path of mourning. You can finally find comfort by doing this and leave the darkness of mourning behind while carrying your loved ones in your heart.

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Ramesh P Elaidam
Ramesh P Elaidam

Written by Ramesh P Elaidam

Life is an adventure, full of experiences to be savoured and cherished. I hope to be able to document a few of my journeys here.

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